I have always felt myself push back when others invade my space and world with their charity and benevolence. Now I understand why a lot more.
I recently came across the piece “Challenging Racism and the Problem with White “Allies”: A Conversation with David Leonard by Suey Park” and it was this particular part that struck a chord.
“Asking whites engaged in social justice or anti-racist work to “take their cues from people of color” is about accountability and decentering white desire and white needs. It is no longer about what white people need and want but the agency, action, and politics of organizations of color. It is about being accountable and listening as opposed to demanding recognition, ownership or power.”