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10 Early Warning Signs of Domestic Violence for Men

10 Early Warning Signs of Domestic Violence

How do you know if you are in an abusive relationship—or headed down that certain path? Trust your instincts. Survivors of domestic violence say that they knew something wasn’t right, but ignored the following patterns of behavior that they later recognized as potential early warning signs that the person they were dating would turn out to be abusers.

Someone who exhibits the behavior outlined below is either abusive or could become so.

• Rages out of control and is impulsive
• Gets angry so easily that you feel like you’re “walking on eggshells”
• Calls you names such as “stupid” or “dumb,” “arsehole”, “wanker” or tells you that you are “crazy”
• Wants to move too quickly into the relationship
• Is excessively jealous and wants to know where you are all of the time
• Takes no responsibility for her behavior and blames others
• Grew up in an abusive or violent home
• Insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family
• Insists that you stop participating in leisure interests
• Hits walls, drive dangerously, or does other things to scare you

National counselling helpline, information and support 24/7 1800RESPECT


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This has been adapted from “10 Early Warning Signs of Domestic Violence” and you can read more at

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2014, was a ripper of a year. Thanks to those who have supported me along the way.

2014, was a ripper of a year. Thanks to those who have supported me along the way.

1 National Workshop, 5 National Presentations, 1 National Keynote, and 1 International Keynote.

Oh, and I trended.

Plus I received an invitation to the National Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Suicide Prevention Roundtable and an appointment to the National Advisory Committee for the Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Suicide Prevention Evaluation Project, all achieved in 2014.

Recognition at an international level to workshop intersecting oppressions facing the Indigenous/Aboriginal/First Nation LGBTI Community in Montreal next June at the 28th World Congress of the International Association for Suicide Prevention.

Three articles published for the Good Men Project.

Front page of the Star Observer and an Op Ed.

Book review published in the Medical Journal of Australia and a chapter coming out next year.

And I started my own consulting business and @HeyPalAUS

2014, was a ripper of a year.


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Indigenous Suicide – Preliminary Recommendations

Indigenous Suicide – Preliminary Recommendations

In reference to the Kimberley, the Yiriman Project should be further supported and where possible rolled out across as much of the region as is culturally appropriate.

The Halls Creek Healing Taskforce and Strategy should be further supported.

There should be adequate investment in developing cultural festivals. Three-year funding cycles should be the minimum requirement in order to enable budget stability and planning and coordination requirements.

Further funding for the charity Feed the Little Children.

Funding for LGBTI programs and projects among First Peoples.

There should arise an acknowledgment of those incarcerated as the highest need group and in supporting them with healing and with positive ways forward, in empowering them, it may well arise that this will significantly reduce the suicide rates.

Halfway houses for those needing them after being released from prison.

The Custody Notification Service which has been in operation in NSW since 1998 has led to zero police watch house deaths of First Peoples should be implemented in every State and Territory in the nation.

This would be the good start, long overdue…

“From the article Kimberley suicide rate, one of the world’s highest – Yiriman is the way to go” in
The Stringer


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The 5 Things We Wish ALL Teachers Knew About How to Welcome Back a Student who Experienced Suicidality

Q & A from Webinar #10:


The 5 Things we wish ALL Teachers knew about … How to welcome back a student who experienced suicidality

This was my question :

1. What is the universal definition of “Suicide Prevention” or how does Canada define it?

The range of efforts and resources that those in mental health make available to enhance someone’s safety from suicidal behaviour is generally how suicide prevention is defined.
Here at the Centre for Suicide Prevention we believe that prevention is the only solution to suicide. We teach prevention by educating people with the information, knowledge and skills necessary to respond to the risk of suicide. Suicide Prevention is the term typically used to describe Suicide PIP or Prevention, Intervention and Postvention. Prevention in and of itself, ideally, would obviate the need to have the subsequent stages in suicide awareness, intervention and postvention, in place. Sadly, this has not been achieved as yet but it is a goal.

For the remaining 5 Webinar 10_Q A

Webinar 10 Slides_PDF

Here is the link for all TEN webinars in this series.

Many thanks to the Centre for Suicide Prevention, Calgary – Canada


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In Search Of Your Warrior Program was created to treat traumatic experiences, to heal the scars of abuse…

“In Search Of Your Warrior Program was created to treat traumatic experiences, to heal the scars of abuse, to get rid of the blinding rage and anger that inmates carry deep inside.”

The In Search of Your Warrior Program Identity at the heart of healing.

Enhanced capacities to provide effective interventions for First Nations, Métis and Inuit offenders.

The Correctional Service of Canada (CSC) provides a continuum of culturally appropriate interventions that address the specific needs of First Nations, Métis and Inuit offenders in a way that contributes to safe and healthy communities. In particular, over the last decade, CSC has created eight healing lodges across Canada. Let’s Talk writers recently visited one of them, the Pê Sâkâstêw Healing Lodge in Alberta, where staff and offenders spoke of the benefits of the holistic approach and the rehabilitation programs, in particular the In Search of Your Warrior Program (ISYW).

In Search of Your Warrior Program

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#Introverts 1-10 “Solitude matters, and for some people, it is the air that they breathe.” – Susan Cain

1. We withdraw in crowds.
2. Small talk stresses us out, while deeper conversations makes us feel alive.
3. We succeed on stage — just not in the chit-chat afterwards.
4. We get distracted easily, but rarely feel bored.
5. We are naturally drawn to more creative, detail-oriented and solitary careers.
6. When surrounded by people, we locate themselves close to an exit.
7. We think before they speak.
8. We don’t take on the mood of their environment like extroverts do.
9. We physically can’t stand talking on the phone.
10. We literally shut down when it’s time to be alone.

“Solitude matters, and for some people, it is the air that they breathe.” – Susan Cain

A Gay, Aboriginal, Introverted Male (And Not At All What You’d Expect That Means)