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White-washing Domestic Violence in Australia

White-washing Domestic Violence in Australia

Indigenous females experience 38 times the rate of hospitalisation than other females for domestic violence.

Last week I woke to the front page of the of an eastern seaboard newspaper with a Legendary (for rugby and rightly so) Darren Lockyer leading a ‘spontaneous’ groundswell of top Queenslanders” calling on folk to do everything in their power to stop domestic violence. Domestic violence in the NRL notwithstanding, you can read more about that here, BUT, bugger me dead every single one of these 9 folks on the front page are non-Indigenous. Last week was also the Our Watch Awards put on by the Walkey’s. The winners, non-Indigenous. Michelle Aleksandrovics and Minelle Creed from SBS’ Living Black Radio were up for a nomination with “Breaking Community Silence on Violence Against Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Women”. The ONLY Indigenous coverage in any category. The conversations were with two Indigenous women and three Indigenous men, myself included. Indigenous females experience 38 times the rate of hospitalisation than other females for domestic violence and yet the only coverage of the violence was not worthy of recognition.

“These awards would lead someone to think that domestic violence is white middle-class issue only” – Quote

FACT: Across a 12-month period an estimated 42,300 Indigenous Australian women had experienced one or more incidents of physical violence

Myself, and a few others, are getting quite incensed at the way the response to these social issues construct create a narrative the removes the positive and self determining agency of Indigenous people and forfeits position in the conversation in favour of non-Indigenous Australians. Credit where credit is due. Just about every social cause in Australia you can find Indigenous people at the pointy end of the stick, i.e. in the high percentile of the ill fated recipients, be it domestic violence or suicide. But time after time after time that stick is stuck in the sand and we become invisible. Insert obligatory non-offensive prefix of “I like white people, hell I even look like one” quote – My mother and her family are white. So are my husband and his family. But fair shake of the sauce bottle. I’m fair dinkum when I say that the whitewashing of social issues that relate to life ending and life-threatening circumstances can longer be. This about being anti-white or pro-domestic violence it is about fighting this scourge as a community, and that means Including Indigenous people, with Indigenous women at the front. Namely, Michelle Aleksandrovics and Minelle Creed, but also Social Commentators Celeste Liddle and Kelly Briggs, CEO of Family Violence Prevention and Legal Service Violence Antoinette Braybook, Lawyer Louise Taylor and the chair of UN Permanent Forum on Indigenous Issues Megan Davies.

FACT: A 2011 survey reports that 86 per cent of Indigenous Australians had experience with domestic violence, compared to 63 per cent of non-Indigenous Australians.

Please, this is not to take away the great work of Rosie Batty, Lisa Wilkinson and all the Our Watch Award winners and indeed the front pagers but, Indigenous females experience 38 times the rate of hospitalisation than other females for domestic violence. SO COME ON.

If there is anything that our country has learnt is that non-Indigenous Australians cannot solve the problem of Indigenous Australians without actual Indigenous Australians. So let’s fix this bloody awful mess up TOGETHER. Reconciliation isn’t just a bridge walk, a t-shirt, an action plan or something to wear on your wrist, its actually stand side by side and saying, ‘I got you’, to each other. And for the guys out there beating up women, murdering women, raping women, and just generally being awful to women, JUST STOP. Get some help. You need it.

CALL 1800 RESPECT (737 732) or checkout their website https://www.1800respect.org.au  


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Violence against women and its link with sports – HT @JackHockman

SAY NO TO MAYWEATHER
IT IS TIME ALL SPORTING CODES SAID NO MORE
Just when you thought the disrespect from sporting codes for women could get no worse we get the announcement of Floyd Mayweather to tour Australia. He surely is the poster boy for Violence against women a history of violence, that not even incarceration could change his attitude to women. As a boxing fan the shame that he and those grubby promoters behind this tour bring to the sport is beyond belief. At a time when boxing in Australia is on the verge of a new revival led by so many who do the right thing with dedication, hard training and respect for others that we should go down the road of disrespectful charlatans who put themselves before all others is a disgrace. I have e-mailed the Immigration Minister Peter Dutton urging him to not allow this tour to happen and I urge you to do the same. The address is minister@immi.gov.au

It is not only boxing that has this type of Issue it is virtually every sporting code and it is time we all played a part in the changing of that attitude. This is not just about respect for women but also about what we want our next generation of men to be by stopping Mayweather coming to Australia is a message that our youth need to see. As I said it is not just boxing it is all codes that must change and that change must start with us the fans following is a few examples and my thoughts of changes that must happen to help end the cycle of violence against women. Sports people should never be the role models, parents should be, however if children observe their parents and society cheering these people who should be pariahs then we will see the cycle continue.
Where to start when looking at other codes would seem obvious with the actions of the NFL this year. Where there were so many cases and different often bewildering responses to domestic violence and other issues. Most would of seen the Ray Rice incident where he knocked his then fiancé now his wife out in an elevator well Ray Rice is free to play again in the NFL after his appeal was upheld. The fact that initially his suspension was only 2 weeks should be the commissioners reason to resign, however this won’t happen as neither he nor the NFL ownership groups have any respect for women, Other than as a revenue source or as trophies for these billionaires and millionaires to display.
All codes have histories of protecting the perpetrators of violence against women and victim blaming at their core. The fact that the worst offenders are also the major codes in their countries or provinces from NFL in the USA, to Association football in many countries, and shamefully, in Australia, the NRL, and AFL. All of these codes have sham Womens days or rounds where they in an attempt to drag more $$$$ into their pockets claim to show respect for women.
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So where does the responsibility lie, with the Judiciary, leagues, broadcasters, sponsors, clubs, players, or in truth the fans. All are culpable in their willingness to defend the star player while trampling on the dignity of all women.
For the Judiciary it should be easy prosecute and sentence when found guilty. Unfortunately it doesn’t happen that way. Fan boy judges have made a mockery of the legal system to such a point that I could not use the term justice system, as for women who have been abused and subjected to violence by players there is no justice.

For the leagues themselves it is time they realized that their continuing to allow those who commit these acts to have the privilege of playing must end. The excuses used to justify these offenders to continue to play would be laughable, but assaulting women is no laughing matter. The parade of players who‘s wives girlfriends withdraw or don’t press charges is endless, and the pressure put on these victims is a disgrace.
The Broadcasters while ever they continue to have a blokes culture and jobs for the boys mentality, the story will remain the same. Watch most shows based around the players and ex-players and if you get ten minutes in without having at least one sexist comment I would be amazed.
The advertisers and sponsors must be made to see that endorsing abuse of women by allowing their corporate brand to be associated with Leagues and teams, who condone this abuse, will eventually leave a stain on their brands too large to ignore.
That clubs in the week that they were endorsing White Ribbon Day were signing or in the throes of wooing offenders to their clubs. This far more than their empty words show the true nature of the clubs opinion of women and where they stand in the game.
The players again so many players made statements on White Ribbon Day of No to Violence against Women. These same players who happily play with offenders, and so quickly anytime that one of their teammates offend leap to his defense, while just as quickly sowing the seeds for victim shaming so that their thug mate walks free.
The fans are perhaps the worst of all, for if the fans stop accepting this behavior from all the preceding groups change will happen. If a Player offends or is happy playing with offenders don’t cheer them. If your club plays offenders don’t buy memberships or merchandise. If advertisers and sponsors are unwilling to make a moral stand don’t buy their products. If broadcasters refuse to change their practices change the channel. If leagues won’t take action simply don’t go to games in particular rep football, where it clearly falls on the league, if they allow offenders to play at that level. The judiciary here to we the fans can make a change, let Governments know that we will not accept sentencing that is of another standard for players. These Judges must be held to account and the only way we can ensure this is through the ballot box if governments don’t act.
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It is clear that all of us are to blame, in some way judges, leagues players, fans and the rest but in all this there is one group not to blame nor should they ever be blamed and that is the Victims.
Say no to Violence Against Women say no to Victim Shaming.


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10 Early Warning Signs of Domestic Violence for Men

10 Early Warning Signs of Domestic Violence

How do you know if you are in an abusive relationship—or headed down that certain path? Trust your instincts. Survivors of domestic violence say that they knew something wasn’t right, but ignored the following patterns of behavior that they later recognized as potential early warning signs that the person they were dating would turn out to be abusers.

Someone who exhibits the behavior outlined below is either abusive or could become so.

• Rages out of control and is impulsive
• Gets angry so easily that you feel like you’re “walking on eggshells”
• Calls you names such as “stupid” or “dumb,” “arsehole”, “wanker” or tells you that you are “crazy”
• Wants to move too quickly into the relationship
• Is excessively jealous and wants to know where you are all of the time
• Takes no responsibility for her behavior and blames others
• Grew up in an abusive or violent home
• Insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family
• Insists that you stop participating in leisure interests
• Hits walls, drive dangerously, or does other things to scare you

National counselling helpline, information and support 24/7 1800RESPECT

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This has been adapted from “10 Early Warning Signs of Domestic Violence” and you can read more at http://indiancountrytodaymedianetwork.com/2014/11/23/10-early-warning-signs-domestic-violence-157971


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The Harmless Homophobic Tweet or the Selective Blindness of Rape Culture.

When violence is entrenched to the point of invisibility

The Harmless Homophobic Tweet or the Selective Blindness of Rape Culture

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The Kissing Sailor, or “The Selective Blindness of Rape Culture”

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Most of us are familiar with this picture. Captured in Times Square on V-J Day, 1945, it has become one of the most iconic photographs of American history, symbolizing the jubilation and exuberance felt throughout the country at the end of World War II.

For a long time, the identity of the pair remained a mystery. It certainly looks passionate and romantic enough, with many speculating that they were a couple – a sailor and a nurse, celebrating and sharing their joy. This year, however, historians have finally confirmed that the woman is Greta Zimmer Friedman, a dental nurse at the time, and George Mendonsa, a sailor.

Greta’s experience:

“It wasn’t my choice to be kissed. The guy just came over and grabbed!”

“I did not see him approaching, and before I knew it, I was in this vice grip.”

“You don’t forget this guy grabbing you.”

“That man was very strong. I wasn’t kissing him. He was kissing me.”

More here at Huff Post


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I’m glad @3ree6ixty showed up on my Twitter feed. Preach.

“I used to use homophobic slurs all the time in battle rap, in everyday talking to my mates and stuff like that. And I was young. I was very ignorant, you know, and then I got interviewed by a gay man and he said to me, ‘do you understand your power with kids and how much influence you have on these kids? You’re saying a word like faggot and it teaches them that it’s okay’. And then – ever since then it just changed me. I think the only way you can beat ignorance is with education and ever since then I have – I’ve realised the position that I was in and I wanted to – I was like a role model for young kids, so I want to be a positive one, you know. I don’t want to be a negative one. So that just changed everything for me after that. You know, I realised I was ignorant. I realised that was stupid, but I grew up and moved on.”

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Website : http://www.360music.com.au

There’s also this from his facebook page.

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Preach indeed.


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Aboriginal Suicide is Different by Colin Tatz

An expert from Chapter 10. Towards Alleviation

I prefer the words ‘alleviation’ or ‘mitigation’ to the conventional ‘prevention’. One can only prevent what one knows is likely to happen, and then only of one can clearly identify a cause which can be ameliorated or mitigated. We do not know the causes of youth suicide. ‘Prevention’ has not diminished youth suicide in Australia, New Zealand, North America, the Scandinavian countries, Scotland, Sri Lanka or the Pacific Islands, in each of which the rates of youth suicide have escalated markedly. All we can do is try to slow, or deflect, the development of trends towards attempts at suicide.”

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Aboriginal Suicide is Different


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Why we need safe houses for Aboriginal men. They are victims too.

Pain of Aboriginal men abused by their women By Corey Sinclair

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Tony Linn co-ordinator of Ingkintja Men’s Health.

DOMESTIC violence against men is just as common as it is for women in some Aboriginal communities.

But Aboriginal men are hesitant to speak up because they fear being “shame jobs”.

Former Pioneer footballer Geoffrey Miller says there is a lack of services in Central Australia that can effectively deal with these issues men face.

“When I was working with DASA (Drug & Alcohol Services Association), it was the main problem we had,” he said.

“Women have their own legal aid and shelter — it’s all in place, but for men — there’s no shelter.

“What we used to call the men’s shelter was the prison cause that was the only place to go, even if it’s not their fault.

“If they stepped off their track, they ended up in prison — not a shelter.”

Miller, who previously won a Prime Minister’s Award for providing excellence in service to the community, said a men’s shelter would address a lot of issues that happen in town, like the anti-social behaviour and drinking in the streets.

“When men get kicked out of a home, the worst thing is they walk around the streets and get themselves in that position again,” he said.

“If they had a shelter to go to, they could spend a night there and they’d find where some of the anger in these men are coming from.

“That’s where the big downfall is when they get depressed, they have nowhere to go.

“There’s little things no one has spent time to assess.”

Miller believes the root of the problem is the shift in Aboriginal culture from the men being the bread earners to the women.

“Back in the old days, men were the head of the family but nowadays, that’s taken away from them with pensions and not enough jobs,” he said.

“Men feel lower cause they’re not getting the income his wife is getting, and some wives or partners can be really nasty in that aspect.

“They keep them in their place cause they know they can.

“The men, a lot of the time, will stay cause there’s kids involved or they have nowhere to go.”

But the problem is not just restricted to Aboriginal men.

Miller knows a lot of white men going through similar problems.

“It’s across the board,” he said.

Congress’ Ingkintja Men’s Health’s senior psychologist Max Yffer said they often see men who are victims of interpersonal violence.

“The vast majority are women but it is very difficult for all people to come forward, and that is true across the whole community — not just Aboriginal people,” he said.

“But particularly with Aboriginal people, there is a very strong sense of shame.”

Some of the men who are referred to Mr Yffer as offenders or as the protagonist will often say their female partners had a go at them as well.

“I think there is a broader problem of men feeling a bit lost in their role in society, particularly some men who are caught between a couple of different cultures,” he said.

“Not wanting to steer away from their traditional culture and become more urbanised.”

Mr Yffer agrees that a men’s shelter would be beneficial for Alice Springs.

“It’s something that is talked about a lot,” he said.

“There is the Salvation Army’s men’s hostel but it’s not quite the same as the women’s shelter.

“It doesn’t have quite the same protective aura the women’s shelter does so I think there is definitely a need for a place for men to feel safer.”

Domestic violence related assault in Alice Springs rose 15.2 per cent in 2013.

It is believed one in three victims of family violence and abuse are male.

A study by Edith Cowan University (ECU) confirmed that abused men have almost no services to help them despite also suffering from physical, emotional, verbal, sexual financial and social abuse like women.

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